What Do You Think??

[LordHavok]

So today I was offered a job that pays $35+/HR, I will be outside everyday doin seismic graph work all over the world temps ranging from -60 to 110, living out of tents and in camps for most the time n sometimes be home, overtime is two times pay so $70/HR, 4 hours overtime everyday, downfall, I won't get to see my son except for maybe a week outta the whole year, my fiancee won't be able to see me except for maybe 1 month outta each year. I also will have to quit being a CAG member because I will have no access to forums or games.

Its either that or I settle for a job at home depot or somethin of the sort n get paid about $13/HR maybe a armor n armed security driver, pay is unknown, but I get all these things daily except my son will be every other day as his mom is planning on taking him from me.

I've been offered this job because I'm extremely certified for safety and dangerous labor, I just wanna know what u guys think, I'm torn right now, the job is pretty much my dream but ill lose my son and my fiancee(first person I've been in a relationship with n didn't cheat on), ill never really have a home til I retire and ill also lose this awesome group of people here that I like to consider my friends n most of all brothers(sisters too in case your reading) of CAG, so what do u guys think, what would u do, just kinda need moral n delusional help I guess, so let me know

[pisspawz]

That's hard one havoc sacrifices will have to be made either way take the job for good money and not see your family for year or stay home and make less pay but home every night with your family. I work on the road nothing like you just said but I'm away from family sometimes 1-2 months at a time and it does get pretty hard at times..

[PestiferousJoe]

Money isn't everything I for one would want to be as close to my family as possible. Even if you have to struggle to make ends meet. If your gone someone may come along and take your place. I for one could have had a much easier time if I left my family behind but there far to important for me.

[CAG Archangel]

What makes you more happy man?

It's a tough decision...pawz and Joe have already stated what would be on my mind.

The money would be cool and would be helpful but how helpful is it if you don't have a family to share it with afterward?

Sounds like your fiancee is the only last that's managed to tame you as well. Will she leave if you take the job? If it's going to work...you need that moral support at home...but equally, why would you lose her if you took a job? Is that right?

Ultimately, which option will give you most happiness and be at peace with yourself?

Ya dont wanna be a rich old man but no one to share it with. Unless of course you just want to spank it all on blackjack and hookers

With regard to losing us...nah...well always be here dude, on the forums. And I for one would demand contact details if you did decide to take the job.




1st Lieutenant - CAG (LT) Archangel
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[CAG CheechDogg]

I had the chance to do many things while my Son was growing up. I could of taken many jobs that would of payed me just as much and even more than what you are being offered right now. But I just couldn't imagine not being able to see my Son because of some of the requirements and shit that some of the jobs required.

I have struggled for the last 14 years while raising my Son, but my Son has never needed anything. Whether it was a job paying me $10/h or $25/h I figured out ways to make sure my Son was taken cared of first.

You say you have a fiance my Man and finding that right girl is something that not many of us will ever have the pleasure of having. Regardless of whether your Son's Mother plans on taking him from you, you will get to see your Son an equal amount of time as long as your schedule permits it so you should not worry about that.

If you didn't have a Son and a Fiance my Man I would say go for it. But I personally decided to struggle so that I could see my Son grow up and for the first 12 years I rarely dated because my focus, my priority was raising my Son. The last 2 years I have finally gotten serious with my girlfriend and patience and discipline seem to be paying off now. I currently don't have a very good job but I am finding ways to still make it all work. I don't regret my decisions turning down some very good jobs because I got to see my Son whom his Mom also took him from me at one point and whom my current girlfriend helped me with court papers and all to get him back.

My Man, you will know what to do. Follow your heart, it will tell you what to do.

[vl Matty xD]

All I'm gonna say is that you have to do what you feel is right for you. For me personally I wouldnt like being awayfrom my family for that long but then again this is your dream job you may never get the opportunity to do it again aand it sounds lie your letting CAG influence your decision somewhat, forget CAG right now CAG is not important enough to influence a decision like this. Do what you feel is the best for you.

[CAG CheechDogg]

Yes .... please do not let CAG even have anything to do with your decision my Man ... being part of a clan is not and should not even be a priority in something like this... Your Son, your Fiance, You is what should be your priority my Man !!!!

[LordHavok]

You guys helped me out alot I honestly didnt think I would make up my mind so quickly, I'm callin them in the morning and refusing, I originally posted hoping som1 would help me realize how bad an idea to let these people go would be and believe it or not you guys did it, everyone is afraid to give me advice here because of who I was and I knew u guys wouldn't bullshit me, thanks you guys for your advice, believe it or not CAG was number 3 in my reasons not to do it, of course my son than fiancee were first, but CAG has given me a lot of excitement in my quiet northern life, If you guys are wondering, my certifications are for extreme condition security and hazmat, i protect oil sites and employees from animals and whatever else, if you've seen the movie grey wolf, that's exactly what I'm trained for oddly enough, these guys wanted me worldwide, I really appreciate you guys post in on here and I hope to stay here for the long haul and I'm sure my woman and son will appreciate this.
Boss man it means a lot to me that even though there's hundreds of forums u read a day I'm sure, that u posted on mine is very motivating especially with your response, archangel, pawz, and pest if it weren't for you three I wouldnt even be this far and where I am in CAG, matty I really appreciate the straight shit from you man, again thanx guys and ill see you on the battlefield!!

[CAG CheechDogg]

Well I am glad you are fine with your decision, but I honestly hope that it wasn't because of you not being able to be in CAG if you took the job the reason for you refusing this job ...

I actually read just about every post and thread my Man, it takes me a while but I do ... especially these types of threads where my clan's members ask for advice ...

[LordHavok]

Well I am glad you are fine with your decision, but I honestly hope that it wasn't because of you not being able to be in CAG if you took the job the reason for you refusing this job ...

I actually read just about every post and thread my Man, it takes me a while but I do ... especially these types of threads where my clan's members ask for advice ...

CAG was a portion of it, percentage wise I'd say like 5%, my son was 80% my fiancee was the 25%, since I always try to do shit at 110%, those three things can turn my days around, goin muddin with the boy, playing magic with the future mrs. Havok or playin a good game with a good bunch of CAG guys n gals, even if a lot of you don't know where nenana is(rainy kinda does), that's y u guys are a percentage plus a lot of you guys have had problems and gotten through them and I knew I could get advice from the wisdom of many