I Need Advice On Something

[Randuken]

Evening fellow CAGateers lol

This post is about to go deep real deep and honestly sometimes I feel as if theirs one group one family that can hear me out, it would be CAG.

I have to ask you a Question ? How far are you willing to forgive a person ?

I'm not a perfectionist I've made my mistakes here in CAG, real life etc. But what I'm trying to get at is that few years ago. A buddy of mine and me were hanging out with a good friend ours (female). Everything was fine until I caught feelings for that female, turns out she didn't see the same light which is fine(this of course after a months of knowing the girl). But the problem is that she went around you know, doing this doing that with the guys. That particular summer I speak of was 2010, I got carried away did some stupid idiotic moronic things that at times I regret. I know those things aren't as deep as some of you guys but you know (Smoked pot). I got let go of my job because I was careless of it. Turns out we still hung out with this chic. Word got around that she was you know sleeping around, one night out of the random joking around I called out a prostitute on the street and she got offended. Next thing I know this girl is telling me that if I say another word She would deck me in the face.

I told her if your not a smut or whatnot what does it pertain to you? I also told her that if she laid a finger on me that it would be the last time I would let her in life specially after the summer we had. I haven't seen or talked to this chic because I frankly felt she disrespected me in my car when I had nothing to do with what she did with those guys. She never gave me an apology.

Long story short, my friend next weekend wants me to go to this 4th of July deal and she'll be there. I'm quite hesitant to go because I feel as if it'll be awkward despite what happened. My friend told me "forgive and forget".

I kinda went back and fourth on wether or not go. It's gonna be akward I can't just picture myself allowing this person to gain my trust once again after she literally was seconds away from punching me. I've been the type to man up for my own mistakes publicly. I know some people say that God forgave us in the cross or what not.

One other thing is that my parents have taught me is to respect others as if their respecting you.


But if your in my shoes what would you do ?....

[CAG ToxicBob]

Go Randy you don't have to trust her but you could miss good times with your friends because you let this get in the way


I'm Toxicbob and I approve this message

[GypsyOutlaw]

bro just cause you go does not mean you have to acknowledge she is there go have fun with your friend and leave her in the dust

if she speaks or says hello be polite and move on nothing says you cant have a good time just cause she is there

[PATRON]

Yeah like Bob And Gypsy has already said .
You need to go there and have a good Time . Acknowledge her and move on .
From Man To Man . Never let a woman see weakness in you and especially if she put it there . Go there and have the time of your life without even saying a Word to her besides Hi and Bye .Not only do you let another Female control were u do and don't Go . You don't let anyone control ur Happiness Never . Dont live your Life In Misery trying to satisfy others .
Live your Life for you and No One else . Life is to damn short to be Determined by others who don't appciate you for who you are .
#RealShit

[Randuken]

I kinda never really looked at that way. I guess that's always been my mo putting people first in life. I'll go no doubt, I've always been the respectable kind. Good looking out guys appreciate the answers.

[GypsyOutlaw]

bro thats what we are here for

[BlameItOnGod13]

that shit is a fine line. if you catch feelings and it isn't mutual the best thing to do is move on immediately. even though a chick might be a dirty skunt unless she's your girl you can't call them on it. in that scenario its just not your place. now, if she's your girlfriend by all means, talk to her about but since she's not all you can do is watch from afar.

i'd still go. if it's weird for you, talk to her and explain why you said what you said and apologize. if it's not weird for you then don't worry about. either way you should still go. don't let someone else jeopardize your happiness.

[Randuken]

I feel ya but my feelings for her are all but gone lol I felt that I didn't have to say anything because first I wasn't directly putting those words towards her n 2nd she got in my space

[BlameItOnGod13]

yeah man like i wrote it's a fine line we walk but do your thing man, best of luck bud.